How often are we reminded by our love ones that the one beside us is only pulling us down? Listen..... Personally, I'm an analytical articulate woman. There isn't much about my life people can tell me that I don't already know or haven't already giving it thought. The complicity really relies on when you're in a room filled with all those who love and know you best and every single one of them is sending the same message (while not telling each other) of "you can do so much better" but no one is saying a word yet attempting to be open-minded of your very poor decision bc they love you (my family wears their heart on their shoulders). For the first time, you feel your body being filled with shame and embarrassment bc you know what they're thinking is small compared to what you already know. Then you look into your mothers eyes and see her pain and feel compelled to apologize bc as a mother yourself, you'd hate to see your daughter with a man of such little worth taking her time and taking her for granted.
THE TWIST!
No one in that room knows you've already mastered a plan and put together a plot bc although you may pretend to be blind is only part of the idea you're portraying.
Woman are highly intelligent creatures - what makes us dumb (for lack of better words) is when we listen to our hearts and ignore our loudly vivid thoughts. Most woman I know are as stubborn and hardheaded as myself. We don't take short cuts and we do our own research. When a man can't do right by you no matter how many chances you give him to proof his worth, he'll never change. Yet you continue to stand by his side hoping and praying one day he will. That's your heart talking. Now if you can make the separation between realism and false hopes, you'll discover being w/him is not where you want to be. When our hearts are leading the way, we convince ourselves that we are in love; that we can't live w/out this man, we sacrifice our dignity, our believes and begin to adapt to their ways bc we are willing to do/say anything to have just one day of complete solace w/that man. STOP! Listen to your mind - tell your heart you've already hear what it has to say and now it's time to set it aside. When a man loves and respects you, none of those demands shall take place. And when you realize the life you've been living didn't belong to you, it'll be easy to let go and you'll be happy to spread your wings and fly away. But before you go, set a plan to fine complete closure at any expense bc if he can't make you happy now, he'll always have you wondering "what could've?" Make a mental list of the things you MUST know before letting go, check them off (we woman love making list, makes us feel accomplished) as you go and that way when you've set yourself free, you'll go in peace knowing there isn't nothing left - not a single piece of hope bc he failed every test you put him through. Oh! And don't play naive either. Be dramatic about it - be loud and put on a show. Pretend your in a movie and your the main character. Put him on blast so he knows all along you've been watching, listening while he thought he had you, you where simply setting your plot to set yourself free.
Good Luck Ladies...
I believe in the Power of Woman...
I think alot of woman need to take your advice seriously, because so many woman fall in that trap. its nice to finally see someone who has a plot and a plan, and makes it easier for the next woman to do the same. so often men think they are ahead and know better than woman when in fact its US woman who are smarter and more on our A game than they think. its how to get to that point when you can express yourself without sounding or acting a fool. Your advice is a way to go about it in a strong organized way, as well as feeling empowered!!! Great Focus!!!
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