Lying

I don't know about most people but I forget when people lie to me. Most of the time I don't even address it bc it's so trivial. But after being with someone who only told lies (pathological) now I feel I have to keep track of the lies I'm told. Most importantly from new people I meet. Is different with kids - especially teens bc 9 out of 10 times when their mouth is moving they're lying. Those are your kids though. You can easily (with a great deal of psychological manipulation bc they always omit a few things) control those situations bc your the parent. But when it comes to dealing with grown people most importantly when you're dating, one small lie makes you (me more now) think/feel like your whole future with that person can turn into a lie; live a lie then one day 3 years later wake up to learn its all been a lie.  Now you've spent 3 years that you'll never get back living a lie. Even worst, you saw the sings from the beginning but decided "oh that's not a big deal. It's a small lie, maybe he/she wasn't comfortable or ready to tell me yet!" Ha!! Yeah until that becomes the situation you live with and that person is never "ready" to tell you. At that point your caught up and in love so you'll probably just makes excuses for them. 

After being with someone that I fall in love with (hard) then slowly but surely (and lucky for only a year but a year too long) discovering how far fetch his life was compared to the life he was portraying, my demeanor is somber still but my vision and ears are piercing. I'm calculated now. No more will lies be considered "small." A lie is a lie -- my  approach is, bring it up. If they're not ready, give it a few more days/dates/conversations whatever y'all are doing and bring it up again. If they refuse to discus it again, they have something to hide and your approach needs to be more of a demand. You don't know what he/she is truly all about and the last thing you want is to get caught up. My ex (the one I fall hard for) I found out dude was a pimp. Yet he is a Harvard student and a Entrepreneur. Surprise! And let me add, I'm quick on my feet and have loads of common sense. I observed very closely but there where so many lies compacted together sometimes I didn't know which lie to address first. Hence my Ex! ;) 

With that said, jot down those lies you definitely know are lies (especially if you can prove them) and wait a bit. If you have more then one thus far, play your cards right - get the truth or start reconsidering bc no lie is big or small but it will be when it becomes the life you live. 

 TheTruthHurtsButLetMeChooseHowIDealWithMyPain!!